Like well-framed paintings and photographs, how we frame events in our minds will help us (or hurt us) in our desire to make sound choices for our families.
As an example:
When I was a very new mother, with little sleep, I complained to my Grandmother how many wet diapers I had been changing. (We were using cloth diapers.) My Grandmother stopped me almost in mid-sentence. “My dear,” she said, “Just think how awful it would be if those diapers WERE dry! Wet diapers are a sign of good health, that things are on the right track, so don’t complain about it…be very glad!”
I am so grateful to her for saying that to me. She reframed my thoughts and I looked at the tedious experience with a little more understanding. How desperate I would be if those diapers weren’t wet, as it would mean there was something very WRONG.
I was foolishly looking at the situation in a selfish, unthinking manner. Had I let that foolishness continue, resentment would have built in me, subconsciously, and it surely would have worked it’s way through our growing relationship and bonding with my child.
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